By Dr. David Samadi
If you’ve been feeling less satisfied with your sex life, it’s probably something you’d prefer not discuss at your next doctor’s visit. But think about it this way: Your sexual health is just as important as your heart health or mental well-being. Ignoring the issue doesn’t make it disappear; talking about it could make all the difference.
Sexual health plays a vital and significant role in your overall well-being. Just like your blood pressure or weight is routinely checked during a health exam, your sexual health should be part of the conversation, too. A healthy sex life is closely tied to a healthy relationship with your partner and your self-esteem.
Don’t Suffer in Silence
Problems like erectile dysfunction, lack of libido, or vaginal dryness are more common than you think, but they’re often left unaddressed. Why? Because people tend to feel embarrassed or shy about bringing it up, even though it’s a vital part of living a whole life. Ideally, your doctor should be asking these questions during your visit, but many don’t. A study found that less than half of OB-GYNs routinely ask about sexual problems, and even fewer inquire about sexual satisfaction or orientation.
Why Sexual Health Matters
If you’re not enjoying your sex life, it can spill over into other areas of your life, affecting your emotional, mental, and even physical health. Whether it’s a lack of interest in sex, past trauma, or more common issues like painful intercourse, talking openly with your doctor is the first step to finding a solution.
How to Start the Conversation
It can feel awkward initially, but once you open up, most doctors will be glad you did and can offer valuable advice or treatments. Here are some tips to make it easier:
- Move past the embarrassment. Remember, your doctor has likely discussed sexual issues with many other patients.
- Be prepared. Prior to your appointment, it’s essential to jot down any questions or concerns about your sexual health. This will ensure that you cover all the necessary topics during your visit.
- Practice what you want to say. Sometimes, rehearsing can ease anxiety about a conversation you’re nervous about starting.
- Bring it up early in the visit. Don’t wait until the end of your appointment when your doctor is about to leave. Instead, say, “I have a personal issue I’d like to discuss.”
- Give a heads-up. If you think the conversation will require more time, let the nurse know so your doctor can plan accordingly.
- Seek a second opinion. If you find that your doctor does have the anwers you need, ask for a referral to a specialist who can.
The Bottom Link
Being in control of your sexual health is an important part of a healthy and satisfying intimate relationship with your partner. Don’t stay silent about it – your well-being is at stake. Your doctor is ready to help you. Starting the conversation could be the key to resolving any issues affecting your quality of life.
Dr. David Samadi is the Director of Men’s Health and Urologic Oncology at St. Francis Hospital in Long Island. He’s a renowned and highly successful board certified Urologic Oncologist Expert and Robotic Surgeon in New York City, regarded as one of the leading prostate surgeons in the U.S., with a vast expertise in prostate cancer treatment and Robotic-Assisted Laparoscopic Prostatectomy. Dr. Samadi is a medical contributor to NewsMax TV and is also the author of two books, Prostate Cancer, Now What? A Practical Guide to Diagnosis, Treatment, and Recovery, and The Ultimate MANual, Dr. Samadi’s Guide to Men’s Health and Wellness, available online both on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Visit Dr. Samadi’s websites at robotic oncology and prostate cancer 911.